This was on a door I saw in London. Seemed appropriate for today’s question!

This was on a door I saw in London. Seemed appropriate for today’s question!

Dear Franny,

I'm a 30 year old virgin who has never found love. Have I doomed myself and it's too late to find love?


Hello Doll,

First off - absolutely not - it is never too late to find love, and you are actually very young (I know it doesn’t feel that way at the moment). 

Second, being a virgin and finding love are two separate issues, unless you have been waiting to fall in love to have sex. You are behind the curve in terms of sexual activity, but that is not a big deal, unless it is to you. If you have been intentionally waiting to have sex until you fall in love, embrace your decision and don’t be self-conscious or apologetic about it. 

If you haven’t sex for some other reason (but want to), I would encourage you to do it. Take it easy on yourself - don’t expect to be a sex expert your first time. Find someone you feel comfortable with and go for it. The longer you wait, the more built up it will become in your mind. 

Lastly, you’re not alone. I know it seems like everyone is having lots of sex, but that isn’t the case. And you’re not the first person to wait til over 30 to have it for the first time. I promise you! 

Happy dating (and other things)!