August 28, 2015

Is Fear Keeping You Single?


Hey everybody, Francesca here. Today I want to talk about something that I see every day and that is amazing single people who are really desiring to have loving relationships in their lives, but they’re so fearful of being disappointed in that search for love that they don’t even try.

If you combine that with our societal delusion that love is something that’s only supposed to fall into your lap and that you don’t have to make any effort to make it happen, and that it only happens when you’re not looking, and you get a lot of people who are looking for love who are doing nothing to make it happen for themselves and they’re feeling really frustrated, and that breaks my heart. 

I just really want to encourage you to know that if you have fear about being disappointed, about being hurt, that makes you human, we all have that fear. Just acknowledge that fear, but don’t let it stop you.

Zig Ziglar said, “The way to be successful is to start, start trying.” Whether it means that you are going to go and get on an online dating site, whether you’re going to work with a professional like me, whether you’re just going to start increasing your opportunities in your daily life to meet new people, you’re going to go to events, you’re going to go to single events, whatever it is, really put that intention out there into the universe and start taking action.

This is your life, you only have one of them to live, as far as we know, and the more time that you spend doing nothing to look for love is time that you’re wasting and you could really be having a great experience with someone and having more and more love in your life. 

That’s my advice for today, don’t let fear stop you. Fear is normal, but it’s your love and your desire to be in a loving relationship needs to be stronger than your fear. If you need some help with that, I would love to talk to you about it, but even if we never speak face to face, I do want you to do something proactive to start making love happen in your life.

Thanks for watching, have a great day!