Yesterday I recorded the season finale of my podcast, where I reflect on how my love life has changed over the past decade. My conclusion? Wow, I’ve been dumped a lot!
I had two significant relationships end unceremoniously when my exes (whom I was devoted to) told me they wanted to end things.
I’ve even been dumped in non-romantic ways — I was the first person voted off of Survivor — twice.
I’ve had two long term friendships end unexpectedly due to us growing apart.
I even got kicked out of my apartment because the landlord sold the building to a developer.
But when I really reflect on how my life has changed over the past 10 years, I am extremely grateful. For all of it.
Firstly, I’m grateful for having discovered coaching. Coaching has literally been life-changing for me. I’ve worked with five coaches since 2013. And those coaches have helped me gain more confidence, understand the power of belief, gain control of my love life, make more money, and they’ve helped me to be a better coach than I ever could have been without them.
Second, I thank my own coaching clients, who have been some of my greatest teachers, for helping me to discover the power of perspective, belief, and most importantly — the ability that all of us have inside to change almost anything in our lives.
Without learning those lessons, I would have stayed in “woe is me” mode about my love life. I would have stayed stuck in a career that I knew wasn’t right for me. I would have resorted to bitterness, blaming my ex-boyfriends, my Survivor tribe mates, my estranged friends, and so many others.
Thankfully I was able to learn that all of life’s challenges are truly opportunities to illuminate some lesson that we have yet to learn.
I can even see the perfection of my legendary status as the biggest Survivor loser of all time! If it hadn’t all gone so so very badly, I wouldn’t have been motivated to finally make the bold move of discovering what I wanted my next career to be and taking the (scary) leap to make that happen.
And there’s no way I would have the relationship I have now — with the most wonderful man — if I hadn’t learned that kind of love is possible for everyone, and if it isn’t happening for you, there is something you can do about it.
I’m wrapping up 2019 with a heart full of gratitude and excitement about what 2020 will bring.
How do you feel about your decade in review? What lessons have you learned? How have your relationships evolved?
Finally — I’m looking for 3 new clients who are truly committed to finding love in 2020. I would be honored to help you do just that. Plus – I’m raising my rates significantly starting in January, so if you’ve been on the fence about coaching, this is the sign you’ve been looking for. 🙂
If you think that might be you, send me an email at francesca at francescahogi.com or schedule a time to talk to me HERE.