I am interested in success. Success for my clients, success for myself and how others achieve success.
There are a million roads to success in anything, from love to business to fitness to raising children. And of course the very idea of success is subject to vast interpretation.
It’s important to define success for yourself. Once you’ve done that, I’ve found that you need two things to succeed at anything in life:
Self-awareness and self-compassion.
Without self-awareness, you’ll never truly understand what the best path forward is for you. Life is not one-size-fits-all. Knowing who you are is the first step in figuring out how you succeed.
Once you have self-awareness, then the need for self-compassion comes in.
We all mess up. We all make mistakes or procrastinate or say or do the wrong thing. But as long as we can be compassionate towards ourselves we can take responsibility and move forward to do better the next time.
Beating yourself up isn’t holding yourself to a high standard. It’s actually a cop out. If you tell yourself you suck, that’s a great excuse to give up.
If you tell yourself you are going to do better next time, then you’re ahead of the game. From that place of self-compassion it’s possible to strategize and learn the lessons you need to achieve the success you want.
You get creative when you’re compassionate towards yourself. You root for yourself. And let’s face it – if you can’t root for yourself, you’re going to have a hard time achieving anything in life.
Try it – it works for everything from getting in shape to finding a new job to finding love. For reals.